BY SASHA TASKIER, AMFT
I was recently invited to collaborate on an expert panel and share some insights on how to cope with divorce. Here are my thoughts:
It's time to give yourself a giant dose of self-compassion.
You are not going to be your best self at moments and you are weathering a transition that may force you to re-examine so many aspects of your life. Simple things, like your daily routine, can be torn down and much of this process necessitates a new approach.
So, be gentle.
Be forgiving of yourself and others. You are doing the best you can, with the tools you have that day.
The people in your life may know what you're going through, but they aren't inside your head. They might be insensitive at times, and you might feel let down - but, chances are, they are trying to help in the ways they know how.
Just like there is no road map for you, there is no road map for them either.
Seek support - whether through family, friends, or a professional therapist.
It's ok to ask for help, to say, "I feel like a mess today" or "I'm having a really hard time with (insert activity.)" (Another topic to consider is if your children also need support - and how to provide that at a time you are not at your best.)
Savor moments that you feel good, because they might feel rare (for a period of time.)
Take a dance class, go to the movies, have a night with friends, or if you can, treat yourself to a weekend away.
Mostly, remember that these feelings are temporary.
It will get better, and with time and patience, you will begin to feel like yourself again. In the meantime, treat yourself like you would treat your best friend who is going through a difficult time.
You can read the full article here: How to Cope with Divorce