Understanding Compassion Fatigue

By Nicole marino, amft

As a therapist, I’ve sat across from many individuals whose emotional resilience has been worn thin—not only from their own struggles, but from carrying the pain of others. Caregivers, therapists, teachers, first responders, and parents and spouses can find themselves in a state of exhaustion that feels deeper than burnout. This is compassion fatigue, and it often comes quietly, disguised as irritability, numbness, or a slow withdrawal from the very relationships we value most.

What Is Compassion Fatigue?

Compassion fatigue is a form of emotional and physical exhaustion that results from prolonged exposure to the suffering of others. Unlike burnout, which stems from work-related stress and overcommitment, compassion fatigue is more personal—it strikes when your empathy becomes a source of depletion rather than connection.

In my sessions, I often see this in people who are "helpers" by nature. They pour themselves into so many different areas of life, believing love and dedication should be enough to sustain them. But over time, without proper boundaries and self-care, their capacity for giving empathy begins to dry up.

Signs You Might Be Experiencing Compassion Fatigue

Compassion fatigue can manifest in subtle ways. Some signs I frequently observe include:

• Emotional numbness or detachment

• Chronic fatigue or difficulty sleeping

• A growing sense of helplessness or hopelessness

• Irritability or short-temperedness in close relationships

• Loss of joy in previously fulfilling activities

• Feeling "used up" or overwhelmed by the needs of others

For those in caregiving roles—whether personal or professional—it can feel like there’s no room for their own needs. This is often where relational strain begins to show.

When compassion fatigue goes unaddressed, it affects more than the individual—it ripples through relationships. Spouses may feel distant or disconnected. Children may notice a parent's impatience or withdrawal. Emotional availability becomes harder to maintain when someone is constantly drained.

Healing from Compassion Fatigue

The path to healing starts with recognition. Compassion fatigue is not a weakness—it’s a natural consequence of caring deeply over time without adequate replenishment. Once recognized, there are several steps to begin recovery:

1. Reestablish Boundaries

Learn to say no or delegate. Empathy doesn't mean sacrificing your well-being.

2. Prioritize Self-Care

Rest is not indulgent—it's necessary. Engage in activities that restore you physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

3. Seek Support

Talk to a therapist or a peer group. Sharing your experience helps break the isolation that often accompanies compassion fatigue.

4. Reignite Connection

Reconnect with loved ones in small, meaningful ways. Even short moments of genuine presence can be healing.

5. Practice Self-Compassion

You're allowed to be tired. You're allowed to need care, too.

If you recognize yourself in this post, please know that you're not alone. Compassion fatigue doesn't mean you're broken—it means you're human. You have limits, and honoring those limits is one of the most compassionate things you can do—not just for yourself, but for those you love and serve.

I believe that empathy is one of our greatest strengths. But like any strength, it must be nurtured, balanced, and protected. Give yourself permission to rest. In doing so, you’ll find you have more to give—not less.

Falling Into Wellness: Navigating Mental Health This Autumn

By Olivia grossklaus, AMFT

As the leaves change and the air turns chilly, fall brings a blend of beauty and challenges. While many welcome the change of season from hot summer days to cozy autumn mornings, the shift in seasons can also have a profound impact on all of our mental well-being. Understanding these dynamics and embracing healthy habits can help all us navigate this transitional period with resilience and joy. Here’s how to prioritize your mental well-being this fall.

Embrace the Change, Both Inside and Out

Fall represents a transition, in weather and in life. Embrace this change as an opportunity for growth. Reflect on what this season means for you and how you can set new intentions. This could involve starting a new hobby, focusing on personal goals, or simply adopting a more mindful approach to your daily routine.

Despite the cooler temperatures, spending time outdoors can significantly boost your mood. The beautiful fall foliage and crisp air provide a refreshing backdrop for walks, hikes, or picnics. Nature has a calming effect, and exposure to natural light can help combat feelings of sadness. Aim for at least 20-30 minutes outside each day to reap the mental health benefits.

Acknowledge Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

For some, the onset of fall marks the beginning of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a type of depression that occurs at specific times of the year. The reduced sunlight can lead to feelings of sadness, lethargy, and isolation. If you notice these symptoms, know you’re not alone. It’s crucial to seek support, whether through therapy, support groups, or connecting with loved ones who may understand your experiences, or are just there to listen.

Maintain a Routine

As summer fades, many people experience disruptions in their schedules. Establishing a consistent daily routine can provide a sense of stability and predictability. Include time for self-care, work, social activities, and relaxation. A well-structured routine helps to manage stress and keeps you grounded during seasonal transitions.

Stay Connected

As the days get shorter, it’s easy to retreat into solitude. However, staying connected with friends and loved ones is essential for mental health. Schedule regular catch-ups, whether in person or virtually, and engage in group activities. Sharing experiences and feelings with others can provide comfort and support, making the transition into fall much easier. It is also important to stay connected with yourself and your needs during this transition. Journaling or scheduling in some quiet time throughout the day is a great way to do this.

Practice Mindfulness and Gratitude

The fall season invites us to slow down and reflect. Incorporate mindfulness practices into your routine, such as meditation, journaling, body scans, or yoga. These activities can help ground you in the present moment and reduce anxiety. Additionally, cultivate gratitude by taking time each day to acknowledge the things you appreciate, from the beauty of the changing leaves to the warmth of your favorite sweater.

Prepare for Winter

As fall progresses, it’s wise to prepare for the winter months ahead. Consider strategies to boost your mood during the darker days, such as investing in a light therapy box, planning winter activities, or scheduling regular check-ins with a therapist. Having a plan in place can provide reassurance and help you feel more in control.

While the fall season can present challenges to mental health, it also offers a chance for renewal and reflection. By acknowledging your feelings, prioritizing self-care, and staying connected with others and yourself, you can navigate this transition with grace. Embrace the beauty of the season, and remember that it is always okay to seek help if and when you need it.