Practicing Gratitude in All Seasons

By Bree Nussbaum, amft

Amongst the many challenges that each of us face daily, gratitude is one of the best ways to combat anxiety, depression, stress and other difficulties. However, when in the middle of difficult situations, it can be challenging to find something to be thankful for. Keep in mind that practicing gratitude is exactly that– a practice. It takes time and different approaches to develop and strengthen the “gratitude muscle.” It might be worth your while to practice gratitude because gratitude is proven to improve sleep, physical health and psychological health, while simultaneously increasing empathy, social connection, self esteem and resilience. 

With practice and intention, gratitude can gradually become more of a natural response over time. The following are different ways it can become part of your day, week or month. Start with what frequency feels right to you and build upon the habit. 

• One Thing From the Day: Over the course of a month practice slowing down and noticing one thing that you are thankful for. Even at the end of a hard day you can likely find one thing that brings up gratitude. Eventually challenge yourself and start naming 2 or 3 daily events you are grateful for.

• Fill up a Gratitude Jar: Grab an empty container and fill it with notes of thankfulness. Whenever something makes you feel gratitude write it down and watch the jar fill up over time. When feeling down, go through the jar and reflect on the goodness in your life.

• Journaling Prompts: When reflecting on gratitude, consider writing in a journal answering specific questions. What is a memory you are grateful for? How have you overcome a challenge recently? Perhaps you are most grateful for your home or putting a meal on the table. Why are you grateful for those things? 

• Connecting with others: Are you grateful for your family or a friend? Express this to each family member and why you are specifically grateful for them by sending a quick text, giving them a call or writing a handwritten note. 

• Reflecting on the emotion of gratitude: While practicing gratitude, notice how this feels in your body. What other emotions does it bring up? Notice the positive emotions and changes in your mood.

• Reflecting on what could be missing: Sometimes, imagining if you did not have what you are grateful for can be a helpful way to elicit thankfulness or appreciation. Perhaps you imagine not having your home, food to eat, family or a close friend. Taking time to sit with this perspective can increase gratitude.

Although Thanksgiving is around the corner, gratitude does not have to end once the holidays come and go. Gratitude is a year round practice with a multitude of benefits. Challenge yourself and a friend to practice gratitude during this season and into the new year. Happy Holidays! 

The Power of Gratitude

By Nicole marino, amft

Hearing something as simple as “practicing gratitude is so important” seems so obvious and self-explanatory, but it is a practice that is often overlooked. In our current world that is full of social media comparison, it is even more important to disconnect and remind yourself about the life that you are living. Big or small; we all have things in our lives to be grateful for every day. It is so easy to go on tik tok or Instagram and see a perfectly curated video or feed of someone’s life full of beautiful vacations or a successful career or a perfect relationship, but social media is a highlight reel. Social media only shows the good parts of our lives. It doesn’t often show the down days full of stress, sadness, loneliness, or defeat. Don’t fall into the comparison trap and assume that everyone else’s lives are so much better than yours, especially seeing it through the lens of social media content.

Reflecting at least once a day on the things that are positive or make you happy in your life can really help reframe your mindset and overall mental health struggles such as anxiety and depression. People can assume that in order to be grateful, we need to have a lot of exciting things going on outside of the mundane tasks of daily life. But that is not true. You can express gratitude for something as simple as the sun shining today, your walk with your dog, your warm comforter, or cooking your favorite meal. It does not have to be anything unique or outrageous!

Some ideas for practicing gratitude:

• Wake up and create a list first thing in the morning either in your head or on a piece of paper/journal

• Do a daily reflecting meditation

• Talk out loud with someone and share things you both are feeling grateful for

• Create a gratitude jar where you add at least one thing per day

• Call a friend or family member and express your gratitude for your relationship with them

• Create a list of gratitude affirmations to read/recite each day to yourself

• Lay in bed at the end of the day and reflect on the aspects of your day that you are grateful for

Ideas of things to be grateful for:

Like I stated before, the things that you feel grateful for do not have to be out of the ordinary. It is important to reflect on the simple things in life that bring an extra spark of joy if we were not able to do it. This may be different each day given your routine or schedule, and that is okay! Just reflect from whatever the day was, even if it was a horrible day in your opinion. I bet you can find at least one thing to be grateful for.

• Health

• Friends or family

• Laughing today

• Connecting with someone you normally wouldn’t

• Listening to your favorite podcast or music

• Getting to work on time

• Coming home after a long day and changing into your pajamas

• Someone holding the door for you

• Tomorrow being a new day and a fresh start

• Finding a new book or show

• Getting outside and connecting with nature

• Having positive self-talk during a tough day

• Coping the best you could with stress and being proud of that effort

These are just some examples of things that you can potentially feel grateful for on a given day. Just remind yourself that big or small, your life matters and the things that happen matter! When we take a step back and reflect, we can find that we have so much more to be grateful for than we sometimes give credit for. Try this and see how you feel! You might find yourself having a different outlook on your life and notice yourself comparing less to others.

The Power of Positivity

By Caitlin Nelson, AMFT

Prioritizing positivity about ourselves has taken a bit of beating over the years, in part due to the rise of social media. We are invited to compare ourselves, almost constantly, to the rose-colored images of other people’s lives. The impact this is having on our well-being has been tied to an increase in anxiety and depressive symptoms. Our ability to remind ourselves that social media is a highlight reel, rather than a true depiction of others, allows us to stay mindful of reality. It also allows us to cultivate an appreciation for the positive aspects of our own lives.

Feeling grateful increases our sense of satisfaction and our self-esteem. It can also decrease the felt impact from negative experiences. An easy way to begin focusing on the positives in your own life is to keep a gratitude journal. Gratitude journals have been shown to decrease stress, improve sleep, and increase self-awareness. Dedicate time throughout your week to document what you are grateful for and allow your positive sense of self to flourish.

Learn more about the impact of social comparison here.

Delve further into gratitude journals here.