Nurturing Family Bonds During Work Travel

By Caroline neal, lmft

In today’s fast-paced world, travel has become part of the job description for many professionals. Whether it's a weekly commute to another city, a long stretch overseas for a project, or irregular last-minute flights for client meetings, being away from home is often the norm.

But while work travel supports financial goals, career growth, and sometimes even a sense of purpose, it also places real emotional pressure on families. The parent who travels often carries a quiet burden: guilt for missed milestones, longing for connection, and the tension of balancing ambition with presence. Meanwhile, the parent or caregiver at home may feel overstretched, unseen, or emotionally disconnected. Children may struggle with feelings they don’t yet have the language for: missing their parent deeply one moment, pulling away the next.

For the couples who say, “We’re just passing ships,” and with children who wonder quietly, “Why does work always come first?” These aren’t signs of brokenness — they’re signals that the emotional infrastructure of the family needs tending. And while physical presence is important, emotional connection doesn’t have to stop at the airport gate.

The good news is that there are simple, meaningful ways to stay close, even from a distance. With intention, communication, and a shift from routine to ritual, families can remain emotionally connected. Here’s a few strategies for navigating the challenges of work- related travel and keeping your family strong: 

1. Create Rituals of Connection, Not Just Communication

It’s not about how often you talk — it’s how meaningful those interactions feel.

A quick “How was your day?” over FaceTime can feel routine. But a shared ritual — like reading the same bedtime story, sending a voice note every morning, or sharing “one good thing” at the end of each day — builds emotional glue.

💡 Therapist Tip: Rituals give predictability and emotional grounding — especially helpful for children and anxious partners.

2. Validate All the Feelings — Including Your Own

Children and partners may feel sad, distant, or even resentful. These are not signs of failure — they’re signs that connection matters.

Say: “I know it’s hard when I’m gone — I miss you too. I can’t wait to hear about your week.”

This opens the door for honesty instead of guilt.

💡 Therapist Tip: Kids, especially, benefit from hearing that their emotions are okay. Suppressing them to protect the working parent only creates distance later.

3. Make the Time You Do Have Count

When you're back home, try to be fully present. That doesn’t mean grand gestures — it means eye contact, real conversations, unrushed moments. Connection happens in the micro-moments, not just the big reunions.

💡 Therapist Tip: Phones down during dinner or a “10-minute check-in” at night can make a big difference.

4. Don’t Forget the Partner Holding Down the Fort

It’s easy for resentment to build in the partner who’s home managing school pickups, meals, or emotional meltdowns alone. Validate their experience. A simple “Thank you for everything you're doing while I’m gone” can prevent relational cracks from forming.

💡 Therapist Tip: Invisible labor breeds disconnection. Make appreciation visible.

5. Let Kids Participate in Your World

Share photos of where you’re staying, funny stories from the airport, or something you learned in a meeting. It helps kids understand where you are, and turns distance into storytelling — not mystery.

💡 Therapist Tip: This also helps younger children form mental maps, reducing anxiety.

6. Consider Family Therapy or Coaching When Needed

If travel is straining your relationship or your child is showing signs of stress (changes in sleep, behavior, or mood), a few sessions with a therapist can help the whole family build new coping tools and connection strategies.

The reality of work travel is often more layered than it looks from the outside. It’s not just a series of hotel check-ins and boarding passes, it’s the weight of missing bedtime routines, navigating long-distance tension with a partner, or hearing about milestones secondhand. For those at home, it can feel like you’re managing life in fragments, holding down the emotional center of a family while silently carrying loneliness or fatigue.

Be gentle with yourself. There will be missed calls, tired check-ins, and moments when you feel spread too thin. That doesn’t make you a bad parent or partner — it makes you human. What matters most is not that you always get it right, but that you keep choosing to show up — in texts, in video calls, in five-minute conversations that say “I see you. I care. I’m still here, even from far away.”

Emotional connection isn’t about geography, it is about presence. With intention, empathy, and communication, your family can weather the distance and grow stronger through it.

A Family Therapist’s Perspective on Political Stress in Families

By Caroline neal, lmft

In recent years, political discussions have become more emotionally charged, sometimes creating tension between parents and children, siblings, and extended family members. What was once a casual conversation can now lead to strong emotions, misunderstandings, and even avoidance. Political stress within families is not just about differing opinions; it is deeply connected to identity, values, and personal experiences, which makes these conversations especially meaningful and sometimes difficult.

At the heart of political tension is the emotional investment people have in their beliefs. Political views often reflect values such as fairness, security, and freedom, shaped by personal experiences. When a family member expresses an opposing view, it can sometimes feel like a challenge to these values. This can be particularly sensitive when political beliefs are influenced by real-life struggles, such as economic hardship or social injustices. Instead of seeing disagreements as mere differences in opinion, family members may perceive them as questioning their lived experiences or personal convictions.

Generational differences also contribute to political stress in families. Older and younger family members often interpret political and social issues through different lenses, shaped by the times they grew up in. Parents or grandparents may see the world through historical events that shaped their perspectives, while younger generations bring their own evolving views influenced by modern social movements and digital media. This can lead to frustration on both sides—older family members may feel like their perspectives are being dismissed, while younger ones may feel misunderstood or unheard.

Media and social platforms also play a role in deepening political divisions. With the rise of social media and partisan news sources, people often find themselves in information bubbles that reinforce their beliefs, making opposing viewpoints seem not just different, but difficult to understand. As a result, political discussions can feel more like debates than opportunities for meaningful dialogue, making it harder for family members to connect on these topics.

Families respond to political stress in different ways. Some engage in open discussions, but these can sometimes escalate into ongoing tension. Others choose to avoid political topics altogether, which may create emotional distance over time. In some cases, families struggle to find a balance, leading to feelings of frustration or sadness when meaningful relationships feel strained by political differences.

Despite these challenges, families can find ways to navigate political stress with care and respect. One of the most helpful approaches is recognizing that political conversations are not just about facts and policies but also about emotions and values. Approaching discussions with empathy—rather than trying to convince or “win” an argument—can help ease tension and foster mutual understanding. Active listening, where family members focus on understanding each other’s perspectives rather than reacting immediately, can create a space for more thoughtful and respectful conversations.

Setting gentle boundaries can also be beneficial. Some families find it helpful to limit political discussions during gatherings meant for connection and joy. Others agree on respectful ways to engage in these conversations, ensuring that differing opinions do not overshadow the love and respect they have for one another.

Most importantly, families don’t have to agree on everything to maintain strong relationships. Love, shared history, and mutual care transcend political differences. Focusing on what unites rather than what divides can help preserve family bonds, even in times of disagreement. With patience, kindness, and a willingness to listen, even difficult conversations can lead to greater understanding and connection.

Put You Family Values on Your Fridge

By anne decore, lmft

Creating a family values statement is a thought-provoking and bonding exercise for families to engage in together. The process of forming a statement provides children an opportunity to feel valued and included in family decisions and gives them an opportunity to practice important skills like self-expression and perspective-taking.

Below are questions that are meant to spark deep reflections and discussions among family members. By exploring these brainstorming questions together, you can uncover and articulate the values that are most important to you.

• What does our family believe in and stand for?

• What are the core principles and virtues that are most important to our family?

• What kind of family culture do we want to cultivate?

• What values do we want to pass on to future generations?

• What are our family's strengths and unique qualities?

• What values will help us navigate challenges and difficult times together?

• How do we want to treat one another as family members?

• What values do we want to embody in our relationships with others outside the family?

• How do we want to contribute to our community and the world at large?

Now you have a list of words and ideas. Next, define each value. Take each value identified and define it clearly. Discuss as a family what each value means to you and how it will be manifest in your daily lives. For example, if one of your values is "respect," discuss what respect looks like in your interactions with each other and others outside the family.

Then, craft the statement. Have fun with this. Let everyone contribute so that it reflects your collective vision and aspirations, your family spirit. Make it memorable and easy to understand for everyone in the family.

Display and revisit regularly. Once finalized, display the family values statement prominently in your home where everyone can see it (I like the fridge because it gets a lot of traffic!). This serves as a reminder and reinforces the importance of living by those values. Regularly revisit and discuss the statement as a family, revising as necessary if you feel you need to add or tweak your existing statement.

A family values statement provides a guiding framework that helps connect family members and shapes the identity of the family. It serves as a touchstone in decision-making and offers a common language for reinforcing positive behaviors and addressing conflicts within the family.

Back to School Blues: Tips and Tricks for Helping Your Kids Study

By Nicole Marino, AMFT

With school being a few months in now, kids are back to doing homework and studying. The transition back into work from the fun of the summer can be tough. It can be hard for kids to switch back into having to do homework and focus on lessons throughout the day. It is important to make sure your kids are having an effective and productive study time.

Here are some helpful tips for any parents struggling to get their kids to complete homework assignments or study for tests/quizzes:

Eliminate any distractions

• Kids can be distracted by things in their environment such as toys, tv, music, siblings, electronic devices, etc. so it is important to make sure they have a clean and clear study space where they can just focus on the tasks at hand. It is also a good idea for kids to have a specific space where they do their homework preferably not in the same space as where they like to relax or go to sleep. It can be helpful and more motivating for kids to have a space that they can associate with being focused and working.

Break things up into smaller tasks

• It can be very overwhelming to cram a lot of work or studying into one session or night so make sure to break up the work. Break large tasks or assignments into smaller ones. It can help kids feel more accomplished by completing each smaller task rather than getting discouraged by a large task that takes a long time.

Create a schedule

• Creating a homework/study schedule can give kids more structure to their after-school time. They know when to start their homework, and when they can have breaks, have dinner, go to sleep, etc. Having a schedule can also help keep them focused and on the task at hand.

Take breaks

• It is so helpful to take breaks when it comes to maintaining focus. When we get tired or distracted, it probably means it is time to take a break. Maybe that means taking a break after a specific amount of time has passed or when a certain homework assignment or task is completed. It can be an opportunity for kids to have a reset and some time to recharge before getting back to it.

Have snacks and water

• As discussed above with taking breaks, it is also important that kids are not hungry or parched during their homework or studying time. Having snacks and water before studying (or during breaks) can help with focus and energy levels. Making sure kids are getting enough hours of sleep each night also helps with focus and energy.

Motivate and help when needed

• Parents are obviously a big factor when it comes to implementing productive study habits. Kids need help with encouragement and positive reinforcement from parents to help motivate them to maintain their hard work and habits. If kids are struggling, try to stay patient when it comes to helping them, or finding a tutor or teacher than can better guide them on how to solve the problems.

It is not always easy to get kids to study or do their homework, but it is important for parents to stay diligent and consistent with implementing these habits and tips. The more they do these tricks, the more natural it will become for them to continue doing them after school each day.

Family Boundaries During the Holidays

BY JESSY WESTON, AMFT

While the holidays can be a season filled with joy and celebration, it can also bring challenging feelings, situations, and conversations. The holidays are an important time to make sure we are setting healthy boundaries for ourselves and our families.

First, what are healthy boundaries? Brene Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston, defines boundaries as simply “what’s ok and what’s not ok.” A boundary allows you to define what is acceptable to you within any relationship or situation. Its purpose is to protect both you and others involved. It’s also important to know that setting boundaries is not always easy. In fact, it takes significant intention and effort. It means changing or challenging something that has historically existed.

How to set boundaries:

1) Identify your limits

To start, you can ask yourself the question, “what’s ok with me and what’s not ok with me?” This question can be asked within several different realms including, emotional, physical, financial, mental, spiritual, etc. An example of an emotional boundary may be reminding yourself that your feelings are your own and that you are not responsible for others feelings. A physical boundary could be deciding where you want to spend the holidays, even if that is different from what has been done in the past. A mental boundary could be altering the story you tell yourself about what the holidays “should” look like. These are just a few examples as it can truly take any form that you may need.

2) Share expectations with friends and family members

“We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must tell them.” (Dr. Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No)

This statement seems so simple, yet it’s normal for it to be difficult to put into practice. It is normal to assume that those who know us should automatically understand our boundaries. However, that is often not the case and it can be challenging to express our honest thoughts and feelings with those around us. We can practice sharing our expectations (both what we want and what we do not want) in a respectful way by being calm and direct. The key is to use “I” statements. For example:

• “I appreciate the invite to spend the holidays at your place this year. I need some time though to not travel this year and to spend a quieter holiday at home. I’d love to find a different way to spend time together.”

• “I always feel overwhelmed when planning the dinner for our large family gathering. Can you please help me plan it this year?”

• “I’m not comfortable talking about my dating life right now. I would really appreciate it if you did not ask about it again.”

• “I feel a bit annoyed and embarrassed when you make jokes like that. I would appreciate it if you would refrain from making those kinds of jokes.”

3) Be compassionate towards yourself

It can be mentally and emotionally exhausting to maintain necessary boundaries. While people or situations may not always respect the boundaries you set, you did the best you could by advocating for yourself. It is important through it all to offer yourself kindness and compassion.